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It’s been a while friends!  And while there is a small amount of guilt in my heart for not writing, there is an even greater amount of joy and elatedness coursing through my veins.  You see, I’ve adopted a few new habits that have brought me to the next stage of my personal growth and evolution.  I’ve learned so many little things that it’s hard to put this entry into one distinct lesson.  But if I could sum it up it would be this:

Lady Lesson #27: Nurture Yourself!

Now I may have said this before, but it is so relevant in my life right now.  Over the past few weeks I’ve really taken the time to accept myself, learn about myself and use that knowledge to blossom into the magnificent being that I am.  The first step for me was to really step back and take some time to be by myself.  At first, that meant watching copious amounts of The Vampire Diaries and browsing my newsfeed every 10 minutes.  Those activities pulled me further away from myself, strangely enough, and by strangely enough I mean I’m not surprised at all.

When I realized how drained I felt from being by myself in that unfulfilling way, I went back to wanting to hang out with people.  That didn’t feed me either as I found myself drowning in self-generated negative energy.  I finally saw that I wasn’t ready to be out in the world around everyone, especially those closest to me, if I couldn’t be a beacon of positivity.  So I decided to spend some time with myself and really, spend some time with me.  Not the computer, not the phone.

I started making to do lists with specific, small tasks that I was happy to do.  If I didn’t get something done, I didn’t beat myself up, I just used it as motivation to do better tomorrow.  I started writing out my life vision every morning and posting it on my wall as a reminder of why I’m doing what I’m doing.
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I started transforming my room into an inspiration haven by posting positive affirmations and images of people, places and things (it’s strange to just call them nouns right?) that I want in my life.  Hell, I’ve been imagining my dream house every morning, specifically the kitchen, living room and sun deck.  I found real estate listings with pictures eerily similar to my imagined home.  So those are going up on the wall, no doubt.

My affirmations:
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I wrote myself a nice big check for 100 Grand.  Just to get in the habit of the big paydays you know.Image 
I see this right when I wake up!  Monte Carlo and winning an Oscar.  How can I not be inspired for the rest of the day?Image

I have spent more time imagining the life I want than I ever have and I am so happy with myself.  Just me.  I feel that my happiness is not tied to anyone else and it’s because I’ve taken the time to be by myself and support myself and surround myself with inspiration and goodness.  I’ve been reading books like A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield.  Unlike Facebook, these books feed my growth and it’s real easy to stay on track if your free time is spent watching or reading things that support you in your journey.  I watched The Secret on Netflix instead of an episode of Family Guy.  I learned about the Law of Attraction and boom!  There I was making my vision wall.  There I was watching First Position, a documentary about the largest youth ballet competition in the world, instead of browsing through another Buzzfeed list of 21 Gifs To Waste Your Life Away On.  I became so inspired I broke out my pointe shoes and started to choreograph.  *Word to the wise, a few years out of toe shoes will render your feet kind of useless.  This wasn’t my best idea.  My toes are still bruised.* Long story short, inspiration begets inspiration.

I visited places that I’d always wanted to go to like the Getty Center.  I conquered my fear of going to Millennium Dance Complex in North Hollywood (all the celebrities rehearse there, it’s no big deal) and realized that I was in much better dancing shape than I knew.  I auditioned for Disneyland Paris because, why not? I trusted that the choices I was making were the right ones and it outweighed any fear I had.  

I am so confident right now because I can see that I’m on the right path and it’s because I took the time to seek it and to allow it to happen.  I’m following my instincts.  I’m holding myself accountable.  I’m standing up for myself.  I’m following my inspiration.  I’m following my joy.  And it’s because I am finally, truly nurturing myself by taking in only the good.

I’ve found myself grinning wildly for no reason saying “today is amazing!  Thank you Universe!”  I’ve found myself looking in the mirror and saying “I love you!  You are beautiful!  You have so many opportunities and so much potential.  I love you!” And it’s real!  

So a bit of a long one today, but it’s been a long month with a lot of growth.  Thank you for spending a moment with me today.  Go off and find your inspiration!  Tell me about it!  I’m in a sharing mood.  

Until next time.  Love love love.

-Jadey Lady

 

I woke up this morning with a nice big knot in my left shoulder.  The kind that hits you in your chest and your shoulder blade and sends tingles to your fingertips and makes it slightly painful to tilt your head to the left.  You know, the one that’s been aching for the past year even though I can’t quite pinpoint the injury that started it.  

I woke up this morning and tried to stretch.  My left hip decided it wasn’t having any of that.  My leg wasn’t having it either.  It made it’s presence known with one tendon stretched so tight it threatened to snap.  The odds of that happening were very slim, but that’s not a theory to test on a Wednesday morning.  Now I know what injury caused it, what I don’t know is when I lost the ability to work through it.

I woke up this morning and took a good look in the mirror.  Upon close inspection, I discovered tiny freckles where crow’s feet will plant themselves.  I discovered laugh lines where smooth skin should be.  I discovered dark circles under my eyes where there were none before.  Thank God I didn’t have one of those 10X magnification mirrors or else I would have been planted there for hours picking at my face, realizing that I’m getting older.

Hi, I’m Jade and I’m aging.

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Lady Lesson #13: Your Body Will Betray You!

My body started noticeably changing around 23.  I’d been out of school for a year, which meant I had been out of dancing for a year.  Let me tell you, 17 years worth of dance damage will catch up to you fast if you stop cold.  When you’re dancing and using those muscles every day, you don’t notice any pain, but when you stop, it’s like the Tin Man taking a bath.  You get rusty.

When my body decided to start seizing up and ache all the time, I noticed my skin was changing.  The texture was different, coarser.  The same went for my hair.  I noticed the veins in my legs were looking a little brighter than usual.  I didn’t know what caused it, but I didn’t like it and I desperately wanted to change it.

Here’s the thing though, aging happens.  It will happen to everyone. You cannot change that.  The people who try to end up being Joan Rivers.  Seriously, I saw a woman who looked like Steven Tyler last night.  I don’t think that’s what she’s going for.  The key is to accept that aging is inevitable and to not hate yourself for doing it.  It’ll come quicker than you expect, but it’s not gonna stop.  So become friends with it and move on.

But we are not powerless!  I learned quickly that this is my body and it’s the only one I’ll ever have.  I’ll be damned if I don’t age well.  I’ve been working with what I got.  I’m aching a lot.  So I stretch a lot and dance again.  I’ve got an “old lady hip” that catches when I walk and pops when I do high kicks to the front.  So I focus on loosening those muscles.  I get really tight in the morning.  So I exercise a little bit every day.  My metabolism is changing.  So I’m changing my eating habits.  My skin is being a little biatch! So I take care of it.  I wash my face at night after taking off my makeup (something I NEVER did) and make sure I use good skincare products.  I floss every night and brush my teeth twice a day because I don’t want to be the person whose teeth fall out someday.  

I feel so much better about myself when I take the steps to care for my body.  They seemed like chores before (seriously, I never took my makeup off) but now I see that they are just the maintenance tools I need to age gracefully.  I know I’m young, but it’s never too early to start paying attention.  

Like I said, your body will betray you and it will keep doing it until you die.  You may wake up and not recognize yourself.  You can pout about it, or you can be proactive and work with what you’ve got to create the best possible life for yourself.

Hi, I’m Jade and I’m aging.  NBD.

-Jadey Lady

Or at least how to avoid being miserably poor.  This post is hard for me.  I have developed such a negative association with money that the thought of even talking about it makes me want to hurl.  No joke, my stomach is tightening up right now.

Last night, I had a dream.  I was in this fitness apparel store (something like Lululemon, but way cooler) and there was a dress I wanted.  I went to buy it, along with a few other items (I’m a sucker for a great sports bra) and  the clerk said it would be about $600 dollars.  “For a hundred dollars more you can get a pack of socks!”  All of a sudden I was surrounded by women whipping out their credit cards, throwing down thousands of dollars for glorified sweatpants.  And I was left alone, rent money in hand, but no awesome sports bras, loungey dresses or overpriced socks.

That is my kind of nightmare.  

despise talking about money.  I don’t have any.  It’s not a fun topic of conversation.  But I want so many things!  That means that money is a problem that needs to be addressed.  I don’t want to talk about it, but I do want to be able to walk into a store, buy whatever I want, and not look at price tags.

Lady Lesson #10: Being Broke Ain’t Cute

For me, being broke is the ultimate stressor.  As soon as I sense my emptying bank account, my entire demeanor shifts.  I am worried and agitated, I’m super sensitive (especially if someone asks me about finding a job) and I often end up crying about it at some point.  Gone are the days of frivolity and joy.  Now comes the suffering!   Now comes the scrimping and staying at home!  Now comes the ramen noodles!

Firstly, ramen noodles are not food and should never be consumed.  Seriously, it’s better to starve than to eat that styrofoam, even though sometimes it tastes like childhood and heaven.  Secondly, it doesn’t have to be that way.  It really doesn’t.

Jadey Lady’s Money Tips (That she doesn’t always use but would greatly benefit from)

-Educate yo’ self: If things haven’t been working out for you, try a new approach. Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki is a surprisingly fun read and points out the habits that poor people have and how they hinder the growth of their bank accounts.  The Money Book for the Young Fabulous & Broke by Suze Orman is catered to college kids and post graduates.  She explains how to budget, how credit works, how credit screws us over and benefits us.  Everything you ever wanted to know about something you never really wanted to know about.

Image-Seriously, read the books: It’s one thing to buy the books.  Read them.  It will only help you.  Bonus tip, if your dad tells you to read Rich Dad Poor Dad when you’re 14, you should probably do it instead of waiting til you’re at the end of your rope at 24.

-Always have a job that is consistent: I quit my job as a server because I was miserable.  I decided to dress up as Princess Jasmine on Hollywood Boulevard.  

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The first day was great, but then I quickly learned that the money was inconsistent and the people treated me like a homeless person.  (In Vegas, I’m a queen, but I could never live there.  It’s uninhabitable).  I dreaded putting on my costume and now here I am, unable to support myself.  Take that leap of faith, quit your job, and you’ll probably reach the same conclusion.  Don’t quit unless you’ve got something stable lined up.

Have fun!: Now that I’m on the job search again, I’m really getting creative.  What other ways can I generate an income?  How can I get a job in the field that I want?  What are my strengths and how can I use them?  I want to be out of the rat race.  How am I going to get to that point?  So get that day job because money makes the world go round.  It’s not good or bad, it’s just fact.  Accept it and work with it.  Use your spare time, get creative.  When you find that new avenue that excites you, going to your day job will be easy.  It’ll motivate you to keep working hard so you eventually don’t have to.  

Get inspired:  Instead of listening to the radio which is pretty much crap anyways, take advantage of all of those free Podcasts.  With just a basic search, you are bound to find one you connect with.  Life’s too short to listen to “Don’t Drop That Thun Thun Thun” , as catchy as it may be.  Check out The Money Pillow (http://www.themoneypillow.com/) and listen to the interviews.  Sean Malarkey interviews entrepreneurs who took a simple idea, made billions of dollars and no longer have to work.  Seriously, some of these guys only work 5 hours a month.  If that’s not inspiring, man, something’s wrong with you.  

Take help if it is offered: Pride is useless in this case.  This is a time when people want to help.  Take advantage.  I would never have been able to take the classes I need to get ahead if I didn’t ask for help.  I would be living in my car, or worse, in Ohio if I didn’t ask for help.  Someday, that help won’t be there.  Just remember that.

Money has no real power:  It’s just paper after all.  It is a concept.  Once you get a handle on it, you’ll be ok.  Money should never be the catalyst for a break down.  Understand how it works and make it work for you.  You don’t have to cower whenever the Money Monster is brought up.  

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You may be broke now, but if you educate yourself and make money your friend, or better yet, your employee, you’ll avoid that poor eternity.  Happy spending!

-Jadey Lady